โWhen I was born, I suffered nerve damage to my brachial plexus, which connects your spine to your neck and shoulder. Essentially it made my right arm a dead weight. After an operation at four months old I gained about 30 per cent use, but Iโve had to come up with my own way of doing most of the things that require both arms.
โIโve figured out how to tie my shoelaces and use my hair straightener, but I canโt cut steak, so my husband does it for me. If weโre out, I get a few looks like, โArenโt you spoilt?โ But they feel pretty bad when they see my arm!
โGrowing up, I was never treated differently โ there were no special snowflakes in our house, and I was expected to play sport like my siblings. In primary school, I played netball, basketball and did Little Athletics. I loved them all.
โWhen I was eight, Mum and Dad bought a table tennis table. Initially, I was hopeless, but I stuck with it. By the time I was 14, I made the Australian junior team competing against able-bodied kids. Because my right arm doesnโt have much strength it affects my balance, so Iโve had to adjust my game. But I canโt say if I have it harder than other athletes; itโs all Iโve ever known.
โUntil I was 19 I competed against able-bodied athletes. It was then I moved out of the junior ranks into the seniors, where it was incredibly difficult to win. I was often getting fogged but I was so motivated because I really wanted to make it to the Olympics.
โGrowing up, I was never treated differently. There were no special snowflakes in our houseโ
Melissa Tapper, Olympian
โI tried to qualify for the Olympic team three times and lost out [in 2004, 2008 and 2012]. Itโs taken 16 years for me to get to the point of qualifying; the road is so much longer than you can imagine, with highs and lows. Itโs heartbreaking when you miss out on making the team. Itโs scary to think you could put so much work in and sacrifice so much and never realise your dream of simply getting to the Games.
โBack in 2009, when the Australian Paralympic Committee approached me about competing, I thought Iโd give some disabled competitions a go. I completely fell in love with what the community stands for. I made the London Paralympic team in 2012 and just missed out on a medal. It made me hungry for more.
โI decided to try to qualify for both the Olympics and the Paralympics in 2016. This time, I didnโt leave anything to chance. Because I had just fallen short the other three times, I pushed myself as far as I could. When I qualified for both Games, I was over the moon. Itโs hard to describe the relief, coupled with excitement and fear.
โI donโt let much faze me. I did feel self-conscious about my arm when I was younger, but now I know my disability has made me the person I am. I truly believe that no matter who you are, if you believe you can achieve something, then you can! Anything is possible.โโ
