Bachelor runner-up Abbie Chatfield has taken to Instagram to call out the double standards on Australian reality TV, comparing her experience while on Matt Agnewโs season to current Bachelorette contestant Ciarranโs and pointing out how different the public wouldโve reacted if the person stripping naked on last weekโs episode had been her.
The 24-year-old, who faced immense backlash over the duration of the show for being โtoo sexualโ, posted a naked photo of herself lying on the couch with grapes covering her, mimicking the pose Ciarran was in when he volunteered to be the naked model on a group date. Abbie wrote that she was nervous to post the image because of the backlash she was worried sheโd get, but that โnothing will changeโ if people donโt speak up about what they believe in.
โLast week on The Bachelorette, fan fav Ciarran stripped down to nothing as part of a group date. In the same week, he admitted he used to dance in bars and has had a nose job. This caused Australia (including me) to fall even further in love with him, admiring his confidence, sense of humour and cheeky behaviour,โ she wrote.
โWhile I LOVE that the majority of the public got behind Ciarran, I couldnโt help but wonder what it would be like if the gender roles had been reversed. What if I had been on a group date, offered to strip down to nothing and posed nude on National TV? What if in the same week I had shared that I had had plastic surgery and had danced in night clubs?!I can imagine the nation would riot,โ she continued.
โAs we know from another one of my ranty posts, I got slut shamed HARD while on Bachie. When I wore a short skirt, I got messages saying that I was unworthy and unlovable for showing some skin. In contrast, Ciarranโs nudity made him a clear contender for Angieโs heart, his confidence being a quality that many women look for in a partner.โ
Previously, Abbie shared a lenthy post detailing all of the abuse she received while the show was airing, writing that she didnโt think people would treat a woman the way she was in 2019.
โThings I got slut-shamed for on #thebachelorau: this bikini, my skort at hometowns, multiple cocktail party gowns, kissing matt โwithout a dateโ and at a cocktail party (out of sight of anyone), pashing Matt in various locations with varying degrees of intensity, honestly admitting that I wanted to have sex with a man I was dating for 10 weeks and all around just โusing sexuality to manipulate Mattโ,โ she wrote.
The trolling of Abbie got so bad after the showโs finale that The Project host Lisa Wilkinson condemned fans, saying that it was a โmean girls mentality.โ Under a photo posted to her Instagram page with Matt and this yearโs winner Chelsie, Lisa replied to a troll, saying, โWhatever you think of these shows, no-one deserves the next-level nastiness, the threats of violence, the vicious pile-on, and the mean girls mentality that has gone on around herโ both on and off the showโ just because she decided to run her own race.โ
โShe found himโ and he clearly found herโ sexually attractive. That was caught on camera but judging her, and not him, for taking part in thatโฆis an attitude that belongs to the 1950s. Abbie is, clearly, heartbroken, and not the tough cookie she tried to portray in that final episode, so letโs all be mindful of that, at the very least.โ